优雅社会 – GRACIOUS SOCIETY?

两天前在巴士站, 遇到一位妇人。 她左手抱者一位婴孩,右手提着一个装满东西的大袋子,身旁还有一台折起的婴儿推车。上巴士时, 见她要顾及这么多东西有点困难,我好心帮她把袋子提进巴士里。妇人一声谢谢也没有, 找到了座位就坐了下来。这样的事已不是第一回了。好多时候, 让位给老人家或孕妇, 他们看都不看一眼, 更别说道谢,就坐了下来。 又有一种乘客。 每当巴士司机看到匆匆的跑向巴士站的乘客, 通常会很好心的停下来等他们。上了巴士,这些乘客十之八九也是看都不看,也没谢谢司机先生就走进巴士, 好像等他们是理所当然的。

后来, 同一天,在地铁上, 一位看似整二十岁的少女,公然的在众目睽睽下, 喝着她带上地铁的豆花水。地铁上的告示牌清楚的指明在地铁上是不可吃东西或喝饮料的。这样不雅的行为也不是头一回看到。

昨天早上在超市里,一位小女孩拿着一包饮料,到她爸爸面前吵着要买。 爸爸不给 , 她就顺手把饮料丢在身旁一个装满蔬菜的箱子里。那爸爸没骂她, 也没教她把饮料放回原位,就走开了。很巧的, 大约一个星期前,我在另一间超市也看到类似的事件。 当时一位少女在得不到妈妈的允许的情况下, 生气得把拿在手中的一瓶饮料往身边的冰箱一丢就走开了。 幸好饮料的瓶子不是玻璃的!!

还有另一个总是出现在地铁站, 令人很不快的现象。 每当地铁抵达时, 大多数的人总是不等乘客下车就争先恐后, 一窝蜂似的挤进车厢。 我很受不了这样不礼貌又不替他人着想的态度。

我国在很精明能干的政府的领导下,迅速发展。我们在很多领域上的卓越成就是有目共睹的, 在世界上的地位也已是越来越显著的。 但是,当国家继续的往前迈进的当儿,为什么人们应有的基本意识和态度却似乎渐渐的在消失中? 作为一个发展国家的同时, 我们是不是也可拥有一个优雅的社会呢?

请不要误会。我没有批评国人的意图。其实,好人还是处处可见的。 我只是很关心,也有点懊恼,这类似乎日益“流行”的社会问题。我相信好些人, 包括我身旁的一些朋友, 也有同感。

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Two days ago, at the bus stop, I met a woman carrying a baby on her left hand, and a big plastic bag on her right hand. Beside her, there was also a folded stroller. When she boarded the bus, she had some difficulty with her plastic bag and I helped to bring her big plastic bag into the bus. Without a word of thanks, she found her seat and sat down. This was not the first time I encountered such an incident. Many times in the past, when I offered my seat to the elderly or pregnant women, they did not even give me a glance, let alone a kind word of thanks. Yet, there is another type of passengers. Whenever bus drivers see such passengers running toward them to catch the bus, they usually kindly stop to wait for the passengers to board. Upon boarding the bus, these passengers almost always do not even give the drivers a glance as well, and neither do they say a word of thanks to the drivers, as if it was nothing special for the drivers to wait for them. The kind gestures from the bus drivers were totally taken for granted.

Later, on that same day, on the MRT, a young lady of about 20 years old was blatantly drinking a cup of soya bean milk that she brought on board the train, right under the nose of the other passengers. The signboards on the train clearly indicate that drinking and eating are not allowed on board. Again, this was not the first time I saw such an uncultured behaviour.

At a supermarket yesterday morning, a little young girl went to her dad with a packet of drink and wanted her dad to buy her the drink. When her dad disagreed, she conveniently threw that packet of drink onto a box of vegetables next to her. Her dad did not scold her or instruct her to return the drink to the original shelf and just walked away. Coincidentally, I witnessed a similar case about a week ago in another supermarket. At that time, a teenage girl, after failing to get her mum’s permission to buy a bottle of drink, she threw it back into the refrigerator angrily, and walked away. Fortunately it was not a glass bottle!!

There is another unpleasant phenomenon that happens at MRT stations all the time. Whenever a train arrives, most of the passengers waiting to board would rush into the train without the basic courtesy of letting the passengers in the train to alight first. I find such impolite and inconsiderate behaviours disgusting.

Under the very capable and efficient government leadership, Singapore has progressed rapidly. Our remarkable achievements in many fields are obvious to the world. Our status in the world has also become increasingly prominent. However, while the country continues to progress forward, why is it that the basic conscience and attitudes that the people should possess seems to be gradually diminishing? As we enjoy being a developed country, can we also have a gracious society?

Please do not get me wrong. I have no intention to criticize my own fellow Singaporeans. As a matter of fact, there are still many nice folks out there. I am just being very concerned, and also a little annoyed, with such social issues which seem to be more prevalent these days. I believe many people, including my friends, share the same feelings.

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